Friday, June 28, 2013

PHREAdom Leader: Ashley Nash



I am so excited to feature Ashley Nash as a PHREAdom Leader! Today is her 21st birthday! I hope everyone will enjoy this profile just as much as I enjoyed writing it. Happy Birthday Nash! Your birthday wish was accomplished. You are a published author!


Ashley Nash

Last fall, Ashley Nash,left, and Amber shared their video about their personal reflection called “Behind the Smiles, Beyond the Letters” by accident. It wasn’t supposed to go on Facebook or YouTube, but it was the easiest route to share the video for their class assignment. The video told their story about their suicide attempts and how they overcame that time in their lives. The video left the classroom dead silent. Although the classroom was silent, their phones were going crazy with Facebook notifications from friends, families, sorority sisters and classmates who were also watching the video. In a matter of weeks, the video became a hit to their community. To date, the video has more than 3500 views. Who knew words could be so powerful? They received numerous comments from people who told them their video saved their life.
In April 2013, Nash, a full-time honors student at South Carolina State University, has published her first book. Words for Warning is about a spoken word artist who commits suicide and her family tries to pick up the pieces to find the reason it happened. Her family realizes they should’ve been listening to the cries for help through the artist’s words.
Nash was working on this book for a year and a half, but living on a college income delayed the process of becoming published a bit.
It took between two to three months to publish because it cost around $800, she said.
Her birthday wish was to become a published author before she turned 21-years-old. She accomplished it.
“I ate a lot of ramen noodles and missed a lot of parties,” Nash said. “I wouldn’t take it back.”
At the age of 11 and growing up in Spartanburg, S.C., writing became Nash’s way of expressing herself and escaping from the family and self-esteem issues.
“It gave me a chance to be free,” Nash said.

Nash

Nash’s first poem got published as a teenager. Her focus is mainly poetry, but she wrote songs as well. After graduating next spring with a bachelor’s degree in psychology, Nash’s goal is to write to pay for everything else she wants to do including creating a neighborhood type environment for people of lower income. However, the likelihood of a second book is contingent of the sales of Words for Warning. She has received some support from her family, friends, but she hasn’t really received much outside support.
She usually has to re-introduce the video and then mention the video in order to get outsiders to actually help support her, Nash said.

Passion for writing and helping others
“My passion for writing and helping others is what kept me alive,” Nash said.
She explained during her suicidal phase, she remembers her parents leaving and she was forced to pretty much take care of their little brother. Her sister was pregnant at 16. Her brother who was three years younger than her had heart problems. Nash had to take on the adult role of making sure they had food on the table, homework was completed, and they went to school. She was barely a teenager herself.
She overcame her childhood through her words, service and dedication. She received a full academic scholarship at South Carolina State University. She was also awarded 2013 Bulldog of the Year, which is an award that goes to one female and one male every year.
When she isn’t working at Ryan’s, in the gym working out, or helping out with her sorority (Sigma Gamma Rho) doing community service, she is writing.

Hope is built and sometimes tested
Nash explained that she’s rediscovering hope and faith.
She said it was tested. She didn’t understand why God would put her through those tough situations.
She has tattoos of hope and faith to help her build it again.

Respect doesn’t always change with time
Nash said she’s experienced a lack of respect from some of her family members, and they would always see her as the chunky little girl with glasses.
Her relationship with her sister is much better, but her relationship with her mother and grandfather hasn’t changed much.

Empowerment happens overtime
“I never really felt empowered until joining different organizations in college,” she said.
Nash’s support was recognized and appreciated on the campus for different activities. If Nash supported the activity, others followed the bandwagon. Nash’s support helped their freshman class president win the election her first year at the university.
“It never really hit me how much of a voice I had,” she said.

Ambition to grow and not worry about mismatch socks
Nash wants to be able to give people an opportunity to get out of their situation. She plans to do it with the neighborhood which will include homes, daycare centers, jobs and schools.
Sometimes it’s hard to break free of situations, she said.
She recalls her former manager at her first job telling her the job becomes people. She didn’t see herself working at her job for the rest of her life. She wanted a career.
“I see how people forget about a career,” she said. However, she knew if she wanted to be more she had to grow as person.
“There’s no growth in comfort, and there’s no comfort in growth,” she quoted from her trainer and good friend.
Another one of her mantra’s is “Never worry about mismatch socks.” She got it from her best friend.
The idea is no one knows you are wearing mismatch socks or any other issue unless you tell them, she said.
Some issues just aren’t major to share, she said.
“It keeps me going,” Nash said.

If you are interested in purchasing Words for Warning by Nash, please visit Barnes & Nobles, Amazon, and Ebookstore by Sony. You can follow Nash on Twitter and Instagram at sincerely_nash or find her on Facebook as Ashley Nash.

Thursday, June 20, 2013

PHREAdom Leaders: Shantelle Igiozee

Greetings all!

This week’s PHREAdom Leader profile is focused on Shantelle Igiozee, a May 2013 college graduate of Winthrop University. I chose Igiozee because of her experience during college as a McNair Scholar and role as a reservist in the Army National Guard. I hope you all enjoy!

While many recent college graduates are probably thinking about their next move, Igiozee,23, already knew her next step immediately after she received her Bachelor of Science degree in Exercise Science – graduate school. She wants to work as a physical therapist.

Originally from Columbia, S.C., she will begin graduate school at the University of St. Augustine for Health Sciences where she will be obtaining a doctoral degree in physical therapy.

“This university has great facilities, wonderful faculty and is an accelerated program,” Igiozee said. “I will be able to receive my doctorate degree in about two and a half years, which is comparable to the average three or three and a half year physical therapy programs.”

Although physical therapy wasn’t her first career choice, she knew she wanted to do something that related to her love for science.

“Entering college, I wanted to study pharmacy, which derived from my love for science. I was not truly passionate about the field,” she said. “When I discovered the field of physical therapy, I quickly fell in love and this field became my new direction.”

She believes in the power of exercise and educates her peers and family about it.

“I am firm believer of exercise as a prescription over medication depending on the situation. I educate my peers and family on the medicinal effects of exercise, which has no side effects like medication,” she said.

Education is Key

The importance of education is a strong belief of her parents. Igiozee’s family serves a great support system in her life.

Igiozee served as a McNair Scholar where she conducted summer research, travel to research conferences, presented at conferences, and many more activities.

“This program prepared me for doctoral studies through involvement in research and other scholarly activities,” she said. “I conducted two years of summer research which provided me with skills including data management, statistical analysis, formulating a manuscript, oral presentation, and designing methodology that will be used in my professional career.”

Igiozee’s research as a McNair Scholar focused on food desserts and the effect of food retailer placement in disadvantage communities. She has traveled to SEACSM and SAEOPP McNair Conferences in Atlanta, G.A., Jacksonville, Fla. And Greenville, S.C. to present her research and allow her to network with people across different disciplines. She was able to learn different methods of how she could use her expertise in assisting people through rehabilitation.

Therefore, her future research will focus on the rehabilitation of soldiers and children due to her experience as a reservist.

PHREA to Igiozee

Individuals have their own perceptions and ideas of PHREA. He or she may look at passion, hope, respect, empowerment, and ambition differently depending on where they are in life. For Igiozee, those words overall share a common goal to keep pushing, don’t give up, and stay learning.

Passion – Motivating yourself to achieve highest dream and not stopping until you achieve it because are doing it because you love it.

Hope- Never allowing anyone or anything to deviate you from your dreams because you have confidence in yourself.

Respect- Always having respect for yourself by setting high standards and never allowing anyone to lower them. In addition, one must be respectful to your peers and elders because maturity comes in time, not when you hit a certain age.

Empowerment- Taking your knowledge and experiences to educate and mentor the youth of today. Individual journeys should be shared because it could help others going through a similar situation. Life is stressful enough sometimes. Therefore, being an asset in someone’s life could help them progress or even save a life.

Ambition- Having the determination to become successful without letting any obstacles obstruct your vision.

Thank you Shantelle for joining the PHREAdom Leaders train and allowing me to share a little bit about you! Good luck in graduate school!

<3 Starkey

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

PHREAdom Leaders: Jessica Ross


Greetings all!
I am excited to introduce a new installment of Always PHREA, which is the PHREAdom Leaders! The PHREAdom Leaders is a feature where I will interview individuals who embody the goals and mission of PHREA which is discovering endless possibilities through passion, hope, respect, empowerment, and ambition.
As a way to kick start the new feature, I want to recognize World Multiple Sclerosis (MS) Day and highlight one of my sorority sisters, Jessica Ross. She is a MS survivor. She was diagnosed with MS in 2002.
Jessica Ross

Ross, 29, is originally from Shannon, North Carolina. She received her Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from Fayetteville State University. She graduated cum laude in 2006.
On November 10, 2002, she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. She was only 18 years old, but on that day her life changed.
“I remember waking up that morning in my dorm with a speck of dirt in my eye that I couldn’t get out,” Ross said. “As the day went on, that speck got bigger and bigger until when I looked at my Mom, I could only see from the top of her nose up.”
Ross was scared because she had no idea what was going on. The doctors in the ER checked to make sure that it wasn’t a tumor. The following day, she learned from the neurologist that she had multiple sclerosis.
“I was happy to know that someone knew what was wrong, but I was scared because I knew people with MS were in wheelchairs and used canes,” Ross said.

Multiple Sclerosis (MS)
According to the National Multiple Sclerosis Society, the disease is “the most common neurological disease affecting young people.”
The disease is chronic. It is a “disabling disease that attacks the central nervous system, which is made up of the brain, spinal cord, and optic nerve” (National Multiple Sclerosis Society, 2013).
MS is not the same for everyone. Their bodies react different to the disease.
Ross refers to multiple sclerosis as the bag of surprise disease. “I wake up in the morning and I never know what I’m going to get,” she said.
Living with MS
MS changed Ross’ life in many ways. She cannot be surrounded by extra stress. She has to actually sleep. She has to actually listen to her body.
She may experience relapsing-remitting multiple sclerosis which is when she may go through periods of active disease followed by periods of remission, she said.
“When I feel unbearably tired, I have to stop,” Ross said. “No matter who or what needs me. It has shown me that I have to put myself first at times, even if it makes me feel incredibly selfish.”
Another impact her diagnosis had on her life is her pursuit for a Ph. D. She is currently a Ph.D. Candidate at the Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston, S.C.
“I wanted to go to medical school, but I knew that the level of stress would not be good for my illness,” Ross said. “I knew I had to choose a path that would allow me to take the time I needed away when I had relapses, but would also allow me to impact others and the world, so I chose to pursue a career in science.”
Ross recalled a professor who took the time to help her when she was out due to her illness. Due to that situation, it to led her decision of becoming a college professor.
“She saw me struggling and took me under her wing. I would love to give back to a student who may be in the same situation,” Ross said. “I feel like MS happened for a reason, and I think it was to give me direction and new goals to meet.”
Ross shares with anyone about her disease. She’s not ashamed about it. It’s considered an invisible disability; therefore, people are quick to scrutinize her because she does not look handicap.
“I’ve had several run-ins with people who feel the need to inform me that I’m not handicapped when I use my handicapped placard. I politely tell them that I have MS and if you want my placard, you have to take the MS too,” she said.
Passion for Life
Ross’ diagnosis gave her a passion for life. Waking up and not knowing how her limbs or body will react every day can be a challenge, but Ross does not allow it to become one.
“I get up every day thankful that I can move all of my limbs and that I can walk without assistance most days,” Ross said. It makes her feel pretty good.
Hope for understanding, no judgment, and endless possibilities
Ross said she hopes that people will understand that multiple sclerosis is a real illness.
“It’s not just something people ‘imagine’,” she continued.
Ross also hopes that people will learn not to judge people by their appearance. Although someone may look good on the outside, doesn’t mean that they are inside.
“I hope they learn that even though you are faced with a huge mountain, they can accomplish their dreams,” Ross said. She is an example of doing just that. She does not allow her disease hold her back from achieving her goals.
“I never thought that I would be receiving a Ph. D.,” Ross said. “Even my doctors are surprised.”
Respect and Empowered to share information to the public
Ross wants to make sure that everyone is aware of symptoms and are aware that the disease affects people differently.
“After my diagnosis, I realized I started having symptoms at 16 that I dismissed as being tired, working too much, or staying outside in the cold for too long,” Ross said. “I wish I hadn’t dismissed it.”
Ross wants to remove the stigma of MS that community has on people living with it.
“Not everyone looks disabled on the outside because many of the symptoms are invisible,” she said. It is starting to affect people of both genders and ethnicities.  
The awareness can simply start from researching and learning more about the disease.
Ambitious to educate and help find a cure
Outside from wanting to become a college professor, Ross is ambitious to help with the process of potentially finding a cure. One way that she can possibly do this is by participating in the MS Challenge Walk in March. The walk is 50 miles in a 3 day time span to raise money and awareness for multiple sclerosis.
“Everyone who has MS has a dream of one day waking up to news of a cure,” Ross said.
They are able to assist by raising money and awareness to help scientists develop better treatments and possibly one day find a cure, Ross said.
For more information about multiple sclerosis, please visit the National Multiple Sclerosis Society at http://www.nationalmssociety.org. Show some support for World MS Day by wearing orange or by sharing information about the disease to help PHREAdom Leaders like Ross.
Source: National Multiple Sclerosis Society. http://www.nationalmssociety.org.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

The Power of LOVE: We are not just our Sisters' Keepers; We are Sisters


Seven Degrees of Sigma

Jessica & Carl

On Sunday, my prissy poodle sorors of Seven Degrees of Sigma hosted a baby shower for our Torch classmate Jessica. It was all for little Jackson, who will make his debut in a few weeks. It was truly the power of love that made this baby shower everything it was and ever could be. I have nephews, nieces, and god kids, but Jackson will be the first baby of our Fall 2005 class. I don't really mean to toot our own horn, but we are a really close group of ladies. We are not just our SISTERS' KEEPERS; WE ARE SISTERS! I honestly couldn't ask for a better group of ladies to call my Torch classmates or TCMs. We are Seven Degrees of Sigma. The description describes us to the T. We have different personalities. My Torch classmate April wrote a poem about Seven Degrees of Sigma that I actually see frequently shared on other chapters and sorority sisters' pages. This is the poem she wrote:
 
Way back in 2005 before our neopresentation

I am serene.
But a true revolutionary
My face shows exultance and power.
Intelligence is my forte.
My strength is in the alluvian
While my beauty vogues above others.
I transcend above others
I am a degree that can be compared to none other I am Sigma

We cried together, laughed together, and supported each other in various times. I am thankful for each and every one of these ladies. When my mom passed, all six of the Torch classmates were there to support me during my time of need. I knew I had family and friends supporting me, but it really made my day to have them there as well. I feel like overall we come together for each other often for different occasions because of the love that we share for each other as sisters. This time, the occasion was the preparation of Jackson. I pray Jessica has an awesome delivery (when Jackson decides he's ready to come) and Jackson comes into the world healthy and immediately knows that he is loved by so many people.

<3 Starkey

Thursday, September 6, 2012

A Pipe Dream just needs a little bit of Draino




First, I would like to apologize for not writing as frequently as I would like to, but I've had a pretty interesting schedule lately. It's okay because I know everything that I am doing right now is falling within my purpose. This post relates to being purposeful and turning dreams into reality. I hope you enjoy it, my fellow PHREAdom Followers!

A pipe dream isn't really a pipe dream, but rather a dream that just needs a little bit of Draino to flush it out into the world. A pipe dream, as defined in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, is merely a fantasy of a plan, hope, or story. My personal thought is that it is only a pipe dream if you just let that idea sit and you do nothing with it. This is similar to its origin of a pipe dream where individuals hallucinated while smoking opium back in the 19th century. Individuals got high on an idea, but once the high was gone so was the idea.

McLyte at boule

The idea of following through with a plan or hope may seem difficult and fear could take over, but one may never know how easy it could've been if he or she never developed and expanded on the idea. It takes faith and trust. For instance, I am reminded of our great leaders of the past and present like Dr. Martin Luther King or President Barack Obama, who if they had not pushed their dreams forward some things may not have changed. What if Dr. King did not push the issue of equal rights nor shared his powerful "I Have a Dream" speech because of one too many road blocks? Or better yet, what if President Obama gave up on his dream of becoming the President of the United States? They both pushed those dreams forward and made a difference in the lives of others. Our dreams may not be as big as theirs, but it can still be impactful.
My soror, McLyte said we must "dream with a purpose" at the National Education Fund Luncheon during Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc.'s Boule in New Orleans, La.
Therefore, if we dream with a purpose and work hard at it then it may become a reality. Don't sell yourself short because what may seem like a pipe dream to some may be an extraordinary purposeful vision that requires a little bit of Draino to push it out.
<3 Starkey

Friday, August 17, 2012

Always PHREA logo and it's meaning

Greetings my PHREAdom Followers! It's been a while since I have posted anything on my blog. I know, I know I must do better. I will. I'm working on balancing everything right now between grad school, work, and life. However, it hasn't been all work though. I've been playing hard and enjoying every bit of it. One thing that always brings peace to my busy life is thinking about PHREA and where I want to take it. Yesterday, I designed a logo for Always PHREA, which I am debating about naming my online magazine that instead of PHREA all by itself. This logo represents everything that I want it to...it should capture the want for you to discover those endless possibilities just as I have.
Yesterday, I posted the logo on Facebook and everyone was trying to figure out the key points to it. Therefore, I decided to share it on my blog. The design captures four different aspects to my life. They are the following: 1) bees represent my mom, Anna B., 2) the four bees at the top represents my four siblings, 3) the five bees between each letter of PHREA represents my journey in Sigma Gamma Rho, and 4) yellow is my favorite color!
I'll be writing more frequently again so please be on the lookout. There are more great things to come for Always PHREA.

<3 Starkey

Friday, July 6, 2012

MY 20 THINGS TO REMEMBER:


I compiled this list of things as a constant reminder, I call it my 20 Things to Remember.

MY 20 THINGS TO REMEMBER
1) YOU ARE A PRODUCT OF ANNA AND DANIEL
2) YOU ARE PHENOMENAL
3) YOU ARE ALLUVIAN
4) YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD
5) WRITE, DON'T THINK
6) FOLLOW YOUR HEART NOT YOUR MIND
7) MAKE TIME FOR CRYSTAL SOMETIMES
8) SET YOUR PRIORITIES
9) STOP OVERCOMMITTING YOURSELF
10) YOU DON'T HAVE TO A BUY A FRIENDSHIP
11) UNDERSTAND WHAT LOVE IS AND ISN'T
12) SIGMA IS A PART OF YOUR LIFE, NOT YOUR LIFE
13) IT'S OKAY TO JUST HAVE FUN
14) SEPARATE PLAY FROM BUSINESS
15) IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS AS LONG AS YOUR HAPPY
16) WRITING IS INSTILLED IN YOU
17) THE WORLD IN YOUR EYES IS FILLED WITH DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES
18) YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYBODY
19) DON'T TAKE THINGS SO SERIOUSLY
20) EVERYBODY DOESN'T HAVE YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART. KEEP DOING YOU!